The Smiling Mask
A Look At Postpartum Depression
True Stories About Carla O'Reilly, Elita Paterson, and Tania Bird
Article and Interview with The Smiling Mask Team by Janine Slayton
Postpartum Depression (PPD) is a very common, but frequently misunderstood or
misdiagnosed condition. Countless women have been affected by PPD
over the years, and while there is much that is still unknown about the condition, the
medical profession's understanding of what PPD is and how it should
be dealt with has come a long way over the years. Take the following excerpt from
Charlotte Perkins Gilman's famous short story "The Yellow Wall-Paper" as an example:
"John does not know how much I really suffer. He knows there is no reason to
suffer, and that satisfies
him...
I meant to be such a help to John, such a real rest and comfort, and here I am a
comparative burden already!
Nobody would believe what an effort it is to do what little I am able,--to dress and
entertain, and order things.
It is fortunate Mary is so good with the baby. Such a dear baby!
And yet I cannot be with him, it makes me so nervous." -
-"The Yellow Wall-Paper," Charlotte Perkins Gilman (1892)
Gilman's short story makes it easy to see how far we truly have come in
understanding Postpartum illness.
In the story, the narrator's husband, John, is a
doctor. He does not acknowledge that his wife's condition has anything to do with her
recently giving birth. It is simply a nervous condition, which she needs to control on her
own. As the narrator states, her husband does not believe she has any reason to suffer,
and so there must be something wrong with her if she is suffering. There is absolutely no
sense of understanding.
While there are still many difficulties in understanding Postpartum difficulties in
the present day, we have come a long way since 1892. PPD is no
longer viewed as a "slight hysterical tendency" but rather an actual medical condition that
afflicts anywhere from between 6% to 22% of women [1] . Doctors have come a long way
when it comes to diagnosing and treating PPD.
Many women experience the "baby blues" following the birth of a child.
According to Dr. Marlene Harper, the "'baby blues' are most likely caused by hormonal
changes following birth," and typically go away within a week or so without any
treatment. A significant number of women, however, experience a much more significant
form of depression following childbirth.
There are three major types of postpartum conditions that are much more
significant than a simple case of the "baby blues" and require treatment. They are Postpartum Depression (PPD), Postpartum Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and Postpartum Psychosis [2]. Women with Postpartum Depression suffer despondency, tearfulness, and feelings of inadequacy, guilt, anxiety, anger, irritability, and fatigue. Physical symptoms include headache, numbness, chest pain and hyperventilation. Up to one in four women are affected by PPD, and when left untreated, the effects can often lead to neglect of the child, suicide, or infanticide. Mother's suffering from Postpartum Obsessive Compulsive Disorder worry excessively about their baby, and frequently have obsessions with germs, or intrusive thoughts of harming the baby, though they rarely follow through on the impulse. They may have low self-esteem and suicidal thoughts. Postpartum Psychosis is an even more serious condition,
characterized by a "loss of contact with reality."(Harper, Marlene)[3] Women suffering from Postpartum Psychosis may include delusions or hallucinations. This condition can obviously be
extremely harmful to both the mother and the child if it is not treated.
The many misunderstandings about PPD cause many women
suffering from PPD to try and keep what is happening to them a secret. Many women
with PPD know that the way they are thinking and feeling is not normal, but do not tell
anyone what they are experiencing, out of fear that others will believe they are bad
mothers and that someone may take their child away from them. As a result, many women with PPD try to suffer in silence, only making the
situation more difficult for themselves.
Recently, three Canadian women came together and decided to address the topic of PPD,
using their own personal experiences in an effort to make others more aware of PPD.
Carla O'Reilly, Elita Paterson, and Tania Bird are three women who suffered through
PPD. Their experiences made them realize how closeted PPD still is and how important
raising awareness of it is for other women, and even men. After Carla and Tania met through a Postpartum Depression Support group, and then later met with Elita, the three women realized that they wanted to take
their experiences and use them to help other families. After all, PPD had managed to spin
all three of their lives out of control for a while. Anything they could to do help ease the
pain of other women going through the same thing, they felt they should do. With that,
The Smiling Mask Team was born. In their book, each of the three women tells of her
individual struggle with Postpartum Depression. Carla and Tania both suffered from the
more serious forms, Postpartum Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and Postpartum Psychosis, while Elita suffered from Postpartum Depression.
The Smiling Mask really opens up the reader's eyes to PPD. While each woman
talks about what could have triggered their PPD, underlying reality is it is a condition that can
strike any mother. Reading about Carla, Elita, and Tania's struggles shows how
difficult it was for them, but also how they managed to heal and enrich their lives!
The Fabulous Woman was lucky enough to interview Carla, Elita, and Tania
about their book and their experiences with Postpartum Mood Disorders depression. Their honest, open
answers help give even further insight into what they each experienced as well as show
how far they have come.
TFW's Interview with The Smiling Mask Team
TFW: What was the most difficult thing about dealing with Postpartum Depression
(PPD)?
Carla: The difficulty in my experience was that my husband and I were
blindsided with the psychosis; we had no knowledge on how to deal with the
symptoms. The obsessive thoughts were scary, and without a second thought I
was put on medication that only numbed the surface without dealing with the
trauma that I had experienced while I was pregnant. I believe if someone would
have sat me down immediately and surrounded me with positive therapy my road
wouldn't have digressed into a four year battle. If someone had forced me to
reflect back on the loss of my friend's baby and how I had coped with that, as well
as learning forgiveness of myself, and the understanding of Obsessive
Compulsive Disorder, things might have been different. I needed to learn that a
thought was just a thought and I had the power to control my response to them.
It was also important to be surrounded by family, not just expecting that I would
be fine. No one really understood the seriousness. Women need to be supported,
not left alone in a downward spiral. They don't have the coping skills when stress
and sleep deprivation take over. I cannot stress enough about education and that
we must destroy the dirty little secret of PPD.
Elita: My self-esteem became so battered and bruised that hope felt more like a
mystery than anything else.
Tania: The most difficult thing with dealing with PPD was the
feeling of failure - as a new mother and a wife. This was not how I envisioned
motherhood. I felt so totally incompetent. At work, I was successful. In life, I was
successful. And at mothering, I was a failure.
TFW: Can you briefly describe what PPD was like for you?
Carla: For me, I appeared happy, perfect, my baby never cried. But especially
when I was alone I was bombarded by terrifying thoughts. My house was my hell.
I lived in constant fear that I would harm my son. I lived in secret, and that was
the worst symptom because I couldn't ask my friends for help. I was a freak and I
lost all self-power. I was drowning in despair because I was exhausted and
starving from the meds and my weight skyrocketed. I didn't know how to make
the thoughts stop and they crept up on me like a constant bad dream.
Elita: I felt like a "Momster." I tried desperately to hold on to what felt like pride
and security. I was constantly exhausted because I was relentlessly living in
stress, pain and anger - I felt I was not understood; I felt alone. Yet...I was
surrounded by family and friends. Now, that's depressing! The fits of rage I went
through were horrifying. I was so close to really hurting my daughter, Ella. It
wasn't until I let go of constantly thinking from a place of fear and scarcity that I
did myself the largest favor ever and accepted I was struggling and needed help. I
realized that this act was not a sign of weakness but rather the first step toward
being responsible for my health!
Tania: I suffered with Postpartum Psychosis and then that was followed by
Postpartum Depression. The depression was really a low point in my life. I had no
energy, no interest, no zest for life. I could not get out of bed. Taking meat out of
the freezer was too much effort for me and I just wanted to escape.
TFW: In what ways do you hope the book will help both prospective
mothers and other mothers who have been diagnosed with PPD?
Carla: Using our book and our truths, I hope mothers will read and see that if
they ask for help soon, recognize the symptoms and do not let them consume
their life they will heal quicker. Husbands will recognize what is happening, as
well as grandparents, and the mothers will get the support they need and know
that this is just a normal symptom of parenthood. Just as we educate ourselves to
look after the child, we must begin to educate on how to look after the mother
and surround her with support and love - Mothers who suffer past, present and
future need to forgive themselves and take hold of their power and strengths.
Elita: My hope is that our book provides hope! We do not have to label ourselves
with PPD. In fact, we can be better than what we were before! We tell in three
different ways what it took to no longer feel alone and isolated. It was our hope
that each of our unique stories would resonate with many more people than just
if we were to tell one. The book is meant to empower by giving women the
freedom to ask for help and to also show their husbands how they can stand right
by their side and support them in many different ways. It's vital we share with
our husbands and/or partners and supports what our help "looks like." We need
to be assertive - not just wishing people could read our minds. Our husbands, in
return, need to share this same information because they do indeed go through
their own depression on this journey. They need support just as much as the
mother who is suffering.
This message is especially for prospective mothers...EDUCATE YOURSELF;
EMPOWER YOURSELF because KNOWLEDGE IS POWER! The act of
educating is honoring yourself, your husband and your child.
Tania: My hope is that this book will enlighten and validate mothers, new and
old. Many of the feelings we discuss in the book may have suppressed. When
these old feelings come back, I would like the mothers to deal with them by
forgiving themselves-not comparing themselves to others-and loving
themselves unconditionally. This is an illness. You are not a monster or weird.
You are just experiencing motherhood in a different light.
TFW: I think it is really wonderful that the three of you were strong
enough to relive your stories in The Smiling Mask to help other
mothers who might be struggling with depression. Do you ever
wonder about what your children will think of your book when they
get older and read about the struggles you faced?
Carla: I view my choice to share my truth as a powerful tool to teach my son that
my struggle was not in vain. I overcame tremendous barriers, and I forgave
myself in order to become a positive role model for him. Our dreams can become
reality, and our goal to heal will impact women and children all over the world. I
have instilled in him the belief that by healing others we heal ourselves and there
is no shame in that. My son will know that I chose to find my spirit and be the
best I could be and when I faced my fears, they no longer controlled me! I am
ending the cycle of negative patterns in my family and no longer being a victim!
Elita: I never worried about what Ella would think, because this book came from
a good place; an honest place; a place where we shared our most intimate life
details so that other parents could relate and find the same strength to heal
themselves, too. I feel Ella will be very proud that her mom and dad stood up and
spoke up. I think it's pretty fabulous that we expose Ella to such integrity.
Tania: I hope that Katherine reads the book one day, so that she can have a
sense of sympathy of what I went through and appreciate that given all things, it
was not so bad. I want her to understand that the love I felt for her grew as I
overcame my illness. I also want her to know that I had resentment, frustration
and anger and that I forgave myself.
TFW: Now that your children are a little older, have you considered
having anymore children? Why or why not?
Carla: This choice was not without thought, but my son needs a healthy mother.
I have experienced motherhood from start to finish, good and bad, and he fulfills
my needs. The reoccurrence of PPD is much too high to chance and I am going to
embrace my role as an auntie which will be quite healing on a different level. I am
free of the illness and am going to support my sisters as they enter motherhood! I
know what help looks like and I am excited to offer support to them as they enter
the exciting journey!
Elita: The first two and half years as a parent were a struggle. Now that life has
lightened up even more for my family and we are enjoying ourselves like we've
always wanted, we feel we owe it to ourselves to truly revel in these moments and
to live many more of them. The best gift I can give to my daughter is to continue
healing myself. Her disposition improves each time I heal something within
myself. Ella is my "beautiful barometer!"
Tania: I love this question. Yes, I would gladly have another child but my blood
pressure is still not quite right (still high). I am grateful for the wonderful healthy
little girl that I do have because when I reflect on the NICU experience, I realize
things could have turned out much differently than they did. I would be okay with
only one child but I recognize that I will have to go through the cycle of anger at
the unfairness of the situation, grief and acceptance.
TFW: As difficult as struggling with Postpartum illness was,
was there anything good that came out of the struggles you faced?
Carla: Yes, I don't believe in mistakes. This was a journey, and I have connected
with three amazing women who are on a mission to heal. I know I have a strong
character, empathy, and I know how to experience joy and to conquer any
adversity that may come. My new strength is tenfold because I have forgiven
myself and healed and I am seeing this in others. As I connect, the power in
healing is great. I am learning many lessons and this is my journey!
Elita: TOTALLY! Our project, for one!! Working with two amazing women who
have the same goal in mind to inspire healing, hope and harmony for families
needlessly suffering has been a stellar experience to date! Look at this interview
opportunity!!
The support we have received from our families and friends and NEW friends has
been AMAZING!
The healing that I have experienced with my own Mom has been extremely
rewarding. She is my #1 fan!
Living through my hellish experience, I came to learn more about who I was and
am. I plugged-in and learned about what triggered my anxieties and depression
and learned coping mechanisms! I realized that I had normalized my depression
for over 20 years! And, now that I have a much clearer understanding of who I
am, I know where I can go! Ella has, in a way, been my driving force to be my better self. I
am, after all, one of her most important role-models next to her dad!
I live in a constant state of gratitude!
Tania: Oh yes! I found out what a person can endure and come through. I am a
better human being for it. I am a survivor! I learned about my strength of
character, to let others assist me along a healing journey, the lengths that a
person will go to, to help another person. I learned to appreciate friends and how
to be grateful.
I have also come to recognize that if what you are doing provides you passion and
energy coupled with helping others, then you are probably on the right path. I
have learned that we have two hands - one for helping ourselves and one for
assisting others. I have learned to trust my husband completely, with anything. I
have learned how to be a great friend and a better listener.
TFW: How long was it before your PPD went
away, or is it still something you struggle with?
Carla: I had the illness for four years. My struggles are seconds and minutes, not
days and years. I know now how to cope with stress, and am finally experiencing
the joys of being a mother and having a great time with my son. He is my light
and I am amazed at his brightness despite my secret illness.
Elita: As a work-in-progress, I don't fall down nearly as hard as I did before. I
stand right back up and keep moving forward! I am on a healing journey and
realize that as long as I can keep letting go and trusting in myself; believing in my
strengths and accepting those support systems that surround me on all levels, I
live a life of amazement, wonder and thankfulness!
Tania: My corner turned when Katherine was ten months old. I was also
weaning off my anti-psychotic medication onto a lower dose, so I had more
energy. I was beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I still have up
days and down days, but when a down day does occur, I now have strategies and
tactics that I know will work to lift my mood. I also remember "this too shall
pass."
TFW: What advice would you give to a mother or a couple that is
about to have their first child?
Carla: You can never plan for any emergency perfectly, but educate yourself and
surround your wife with support. Build her up, love her, remember that you have
created a life reflecting your love and that is beautiful. Remember that you must
be a team. Listen, and observe. If she asks for help, offer it willingly without
judgment. Make sure you take adequate time after the birth to help her get
comfortable and lean on your families and friends to make the transition
smoothly. If PPD does occur, fight it, get plans in place, seek counseling and
investigate. The road will be less of a strain and you will end up with a stronger
relationship!
Elita: Do your best to not think, "Aw geez, that won't happen to me." Read about
C-sections, learn about complications that can happen, educate yourself on pre-
and post-natal mood disorders! These disorders DO NOT DISCRIMATE! They
are global issues. And, the best part...THEY ARE TREATABLE! Empower
yourselves by being real with your fears and facing them anyway...together.
Learn about those supports that are in place for difficult times and please educate
your family and friends while you're at it, too. Everyone truly is a part of the
healing solution, "The village that raises the child!"
Tania: My advice would be to educate yourself as much as you can. Knowledge is
power! Talk to other women that you are comfortable with - find out the good,
the bad and the ugly. Know that your life will never be the same once this child
comes into the world. Things that seem important now are not, and things you
have paid no attention to will become important. Parenting is the hardest and
most fantastic job we will ever have.
TFW: How would you describe the support you got from one another
and the other women you met who were dealing with PPD?
Carla: The support was phenomenal because we all understood the darkness,
and together the light was blinding in our ability to heal each other. There was
understanding without saying a word, expressing ourselves free of judgment,
healing together and working as team to build each other up when we needed the
support. Our connection as mothers and survivors brought us together to heal
others with validation and empathy.
Elita: My healing was exponential after I joined forces with Tania, Carla and
Peggy in February 2008! Each month that passes by and we give back to people
by connecting with them through sharing and caring and listening with our
hearts - I am astounded by the hope we give one another! I've never been as
giving and as creative, and it's such a dream come true to be making a positive difference.
Tania: The support systems that I was fortunate enough to have were my
lifeline. I owe a great deal of gratitude to my Postpartum Support girlfriends,
Mary Kay girlfriends, Mary Kay customers and SaskTel friends. I found that
when you let go of the competition between yourself and others and just accept,
you will be better for it. I also think that you need to be honest with your friends
- let them know what is going on so that they can reach out and help you.
TFW: Is there anything else you'd like to say, or any other words of
wisdom you'd like to give to others interested in your stories?
Carla: You can overcome any obstacle, especially PPD, if you
love yourself, believe in you strengths and forgive yourself!
Elita: You may not feel this experience is your fault, but it is your responsibility.
Actually, any experience in your life is your responsibility in that you can choose
how you want to react. For example, you can accept you need help and guidance,
or not. You can make a conscious effort to learn from joy instead of from pain.
You can remain playing the victim or awaken to your life's purpose. What does
your life purpose look or feel like? When you are living from a
place of being honest with yourself through self-forgiveness and acceptance; when you
begin to let go recognize inspiration when it presents itself
and act on it! This all takes practice, but it's so well worth building that sense of connection with yourself and others. The choices are endless...so are you!
Tania: I would just like to say to anyone who is reading this article: There is no
such thing as a coincidence or accident. You were MEANT to be reading this
article. Maybe you are the one suffering, maybe it is your sister, your mother who
did, or your girlfriend - it does not matter because the truth will always set you
free!
And now, as if our interview with Carla, Elita, and Tania was not enough, I
was also lucky enough to be able to talk to Darren and Ward, Tania and Elita's
husbands. Their insight was very valuable, because it shows another side of
dealing with PPD that many people do not think about. PPD
does not just affect the woman who is suffering from it, but it also affects all those
close to them, especially their husbands. After all, having a baby is new for their
husbands too, and when a man's wife is suffering from PPD he now finds himself
caring for a new baby along with a wife who may not be up to the challenge of
caring for that new baby. Darren and Ward's responses to my questions helped
bring a fuller picture to the way PPD affects everyone involved.
TFW: From your perspective, what was it like dealing with your wife's PPD? How did her behavior look from the outside?
Darren: My experience was that it was the most difficult period I have experienced in
my entire life to this point. When I think about our whole postpartum experience, I break
that into two periods of time.
The first period was when my wife was very manic (high) and in mental crisis soon after
the premature birth of our child. This was a frightening period of time. My newborn
daughter was in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit, and my wife was acting in erratic and
bizarre ways. She stayed awake for about two days, and I finally managed to trick her
into committing herself into the Psychiatric Ward. Once my wife was in the Psychiatric
Ward of the hospital and stabilized, she began taking anti-psychotic medication and her
behavior became "normal". Once my wife was released from the hospital, our daughter
was released from the hospital within a few weeks as well. This is really the beginning of
the second period of our postpartum experience.
This second period was less dramatic, but I would say looking back on it now, it was the
hardest part. My wife was taking medication that basically knocked her out at night. I
was left to do all of the night feedings, and then get up and go to work the next day. My
wife was extremely unmotivated to do much of anything during the day. She generally
did not do any housework, or cook, or even just go out. This left me to do most of the
cooking, laundry, cleaning, grocery shopping etc, as well as the night feedings and a full
time job, and part time business as well. Some days my wife would call me at work and
tell me she "just couldn't handle it" and to get home because she was going to hurt our
child. I found this period was the hardest for me personally. She just would not do
anything. I could see she was suffering, but she refused to get out of the house and go do
anything for herself or with our daughter. I don't just mean housework, I mean anything,
from going to the park or a movie to visiting friends etc.
My personal frustration levels where very high during this time. There were times when I
was so angry I felt violent, there were times when I cried, there were times when just
wanted to quit. But I didn't.
Things slowly began to get better once my wife began attending regular postpartum
support group meetings, and going on more outings with friends. Also, my daughter
began to sleep through the night (most of the time). It was a very long process. If you
were to ask me, I would say it was almost 2 years before I got my wife back.
As for how it looked from the outside, during the first period of our postpartum
experience, when my wife was manic I actually received several phone calls from her
friends and business associates expressing their concern for her well-being. It was
obvious she was in mental difficulty and anyone who had any face-to-face contact with
her could tell.
During the second period of our postpartum experience I am not sure most people knew
the extent of what was going on. This actually is the cruelest part of any postpartum
experience in my opinion. Everyone affected by it is so wrapped up in shame, guilt,
anger, fear, and such that they will rarely ask for help.
Ward: To be honest, I had no idea what was going on. Ella was our first child and I was the
youngest of four, so I had no real idea of what to expect. Part of me was convinced that
this was normal. Then I struggled with the question, "If this is normal then why do people
do this more than once?" I had no idea of what it looked like from the outside, and
frankly it never really crossed my mind to even think about what it may have looked from
the outside. I knew it was a rough patch and that we would get through it, it would just
take some time, and we were learning. The learning curve for Elita and I was steep.
I would say that Elita was in denial of having depression for the longest time, and that
was the first hurdle and most important was the acceptance. Once you accept it is
happening to you, that opens up the path to growth to become a more complete person.
TFW: How did your wife's depression affect your relationship?
Darren: The affect on our relationship was total. As most people will tell you,
having a child will change your relationship. Having a child and a postpartum
experience with that child can (and frequently does) devastate your relationship.
We essentially had no sex life of any kind for probably a year at least. I was at a
loss as to what happened to the wonderful woman I had married. She and I
stopped doing most of the things we used to do together (going to the gym,
movies, on dates, etc). My wife gained a lot of weight due to the medication she
was on. I also managed to gain a lot of weight without any medication for some
reason too...
Ward: It did really affect our relationship. It took not only Elita over, but me as
well. We both changed as people. We didn't laugh or enjoy each other's company
as much. We were both very short with each other, and frankly we were both
scared and nervous about our new responsibility as parents. We do not take the
job of parenting lightly, and that added to the pressure we placed on ourselves
already. I can say that since this journey has begun we have learned even more
about ourselves and our limits. Elita has taken responsibility for her own health
and in turn that has really helped me. As a result of the healing that is going on,
our relationship is being repaired and in some facets is even stronger than before.
TFW: What were the biggest challenges you had to face while your
wife was sick?
Darren: Other than the things mentioned above, my biggest challenge was the depression that I myself fell into about a year or so into our post partum experience. I was
finding that I had feelings of being powerless and paralyzed. This really affected my
work life, my business, my health, my love. I went to professional counseling for myself
and I believe I have pulled through that stage of my life.
Ward: First off, I don't believe the word "sick" is fair. I don't perceive Elita's Postpartum Depression as a sickness but rather an experience, and she wasn't alone in her struggle. I
was going through the same thing.
I was quick to judge Elita and overly critical. I was
becoming more resentful as her behavior continued and nothing was getting better. Elita
was taken over by fear and anxiety. She did not leave the house much, or do much around
the house for that matter; the household seemed to be in a state of chaos. It was tough to
be understanding when some simple tasks or requests were not getting done.
TFW: What advice would you give other husbands who are about to become fathers
for the first time?
Darren: Just be very involved and helpful. Pay attention to your wife and how she is
acting and feeling. Be a good father and husband. If you don't know what that is, take
ownership and find out (read books, internet research etc.)
Ward: The advice I would give husbands who are about to become fathers for the first
time is a tough question. I don't feel that I am in any sort of position on giving advice
about being a parent. I guess the main piece of advice is to try to be prepared for the
change in lifestyle. The problem is, how do you prepare for it? I would have to agree with what Darren said: Be very involved and supportive of what your wife is going through.
TFW: What would you tell another husband whose wife is suffering from PPD?
Darren: Hold on to your family. No matter what! They need you more than you can
know; there will be times when you are tempted to let anger control you, to let selfishness
control you, to let fear and self doubt control you. You must fight through that and be a
pillar of support for your family. There will be a period of time when everything in your
relationship will depend on you, so be ready for it.
Ward: I would tell husbands whose wives are suffering from PPD to
get help from other people. Ask your family, friends, and whoever your wife has respect
for if they would talk with her, too. Explain to them what is happening and ask if they
would be willing to help. I found that Elita would listen better to people other than me.
Also try to be as empathetic as possible and show your partner that Postpartum Depression comes in a number of forms and it really isn't anything to be ashamed of. I
would like to think this depression is just a transition period in life, and once you have
come to terms with what is happening and accept it, you are on your way to winning the
battle.
TFW: Is there anything else you would like to say about your wife's depression
and the challenges you both faced?
Ward: I would like to say we both had to deal with changes in levels of responsibility
and life adjustments. Change is sometimes a struggle but you usually come out wiser and
better in the end. I would encourage people to talk about the struggles that they have.
You would be surprised by the amount of people that are struggling with the same
challenges. Once you start talking you will find out you are not alone, and then it is easier
to have a sense of humor about your current situation. Nobody is perfect, nor should you
try to be.
For more information about Postpartum Depression or to learn more about
Tania, Carla, and Elita's stories, visit www.thesmilingmask.com or pick up a copy
of The Smiling Mask: Truths about Postpartum Depression and Parenthood by Carla
O'Reilly, Elita Paterson, Tania Bird, and Peggy Collins.
You can also visit www.cntgrp.ca/unmaskingppd to learn about their conference
"Unmasking Postpartum Depression: Real Pain - Real People - Real Hope" taking
Place September 29 - October 1 2009 in Regina, Saskatchewan, CANADA.
[1] Bird, Tania, Collins, Peggy, O'Reilly, Carla, and Paterson, Elita. The Smiling Mask. Saskatchewan: Purpose to Prosperity Publishing, 2008.
[2] Harper, Marlene. Preface, The Smiling Mask.
[3] "Conquering Postpartum Depression: A proven plan for recovery," Ronald Rosenburg, M.D. Deborah Greening, Ph.D. James Windell, M.A., 2003.